As human beings, we tend to view ourselves with rose tinted
glasses, considering ourselves better than those around us. Sometimes this is even worse among religious
people than among the general population, because they make such a big deal
about being good. Many times the same
person who is so very religious in church on Sunday has a reputation as someone
who can’t be trusted in business. They
are like the Scribes and Pharisees, who Jesus described as stealing a widow’s
home while making a big religious show to hide their wickedness, in Matthew 23:14. “Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees,
hypocrites! for ye devour widows' houses, and for a pretence make long prayer:
therefore ye shall receive the greater damnation.”
If we are Christians, there are certain characteristic
attitudes, known as the fruit of the Spirit that the Holy Spirit produces in
our lives. If we are walking in the
Spirit, allowing him to lead, those attitudes will govern how we relate to
other people in our daily lives, and eliminating most of the conflicts, as Proverbs
16:7 tells us. “When a man's ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at
peace with him.” I Corinthians 3:3 tells us conflict with our associates
is evidence of an unspiritual state. “For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is
among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as
men?”
In Colossians 3, Paul addresses some areas of life that many
of deal with every day. Because they are
so familiar, it is easy to let ourselves fall back into ungodly habits rather than
letting the Spirit guide us in these areas, yet they are some of the most
important relationships in our lives. If
we are not allowing the spirit to control these areas of our life, we cannot be
walking in the Spirit.
The first area Paul addresses is the marriage relationship
in Colossians 3:18-19. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter
against them.” A bossy, complaining
wife who demands her own way is in deliberate rebellion against God’s
principles as established in Genesis 3:16, and is clearly not walking in the
Spirit. A controlling, abusive,
unforgiving, uncaring, or disrespectful husband also cannot be walking in the
Spirit. Conflicts in these areas
distract us from serving God and interfere with our spiritual
relationship. I Peter 3:7 warns, “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving
honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of
the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
A second major area that gets neglected is the relationship
between parent and child. Colossians
3:20-21 instructs, “Children, obey your
parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger,
lest they be discouraged.” A parent
is responsible for keeping his children safe, because children do not
understand the dangers. God has given
him that responsibility and the child ought to respect the authority God has
given. If he does, and the parent has
done his job properly, it will result in a long and healthy life for the
child. At the same time, the parent has the
responsibility to set the proper example before the child. A child’s picture of God is largely based on
the example his parents, and especially his father sets. A spiritual parent will be consistently
loving and reasonable in their expectations, not angry and capricious. Ephesians 6:4 refers to this as bringing them
up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, literally as God directs. Failure
to do so causes them to give up hope of ever being acceptable to either the
parent or to God, and they may well reject Christianity as a result.
The final area Paul addresses is our relationships at work,
in Colossians 3:22-4:1. “Servants, obey in all things your masters
according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness
of heart, fearing God: And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord,
and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the
inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the
wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons. Masters, give unto your servants that which is
just and equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven.”
Most of us are employed by someone. We need to sincerely respect our employers,
not just make a show when they are looking.
Whether we realize it or not God
has put them in that position and you need to give them your best, even when
they don’t earn it. I Peter 2:18
commands, “Servants, be subject to your
masters with all fear; not only to the good and gentle, but also to the
froward.” We need to keep in mind
that ultimately we are working for and representing God, and that he will reward
us accordingly, with no allowances for who we think we are. Employers and bosses need to respect the work
their employees do, seeing that they receive fair treatment and pay, realizing
that they also work for God and will be rewarded as they deserve.